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COVER STORIES, Page 57WOODY ALLENWhat Is Incest?
Woody Allen is not Soon-Yi's biological father; he is not
married to her adoptive mother Mia Farrow; and he did not live
in their home. Moreover, Soon-Yi is a consenting adult. But if
the Woody-Soon-Yi affair is not legally out of bounds, it is
hardly innocent. At the very least, a man who sleeps with his
ex-lover's daughter appears predatory and manipulative. But the
relationship shades into indecency with the claim by Soon-Yi's
siblings that Allen has been a father figure to the entire
Farrow brood ever since Soon-Yi was a preteen. Isn't that
bringing sex a little too close to home, close enough to raise
the issue of incest?
Defining the ancient taboo becomes hard in an era of
recombinant families created by divorce, remarriage and
adoption. The traditional stricture -- no carnal relations
between parent and child or brother and sister -- still holds,
but how does it apply to today's blended and extended families,
where blood ties are often thin or absent?
Historically the taboo has had a scientific rationale:
that inbreeding drains the gene pool, greatly increasing the
chances of mental and physical defects in offspring. But modern
geneticists have found that such dangers are overstated; it
would take generations of inbreeding for such problems to
surface regularly. A more important reason for the taboo is
cultural: incest has been banned to preserve family harmony by
keeping disruptive rivalries and jealousies at bay. It has also
helped to strengthen kinship clans; by forcing members to marry
outside the group, the clan expands its wealth and allies.
Today the most significant damage from incest is
psychological. The heart of a family, say experts, is not the
bloodline but the emotional connection. "Proper human growth
involves gradually separating emotionally from your family so
that you can go off and start one of your own," stresses child
therapist Carole West of Beverly Hills, California. "Incest
disrupts that process."
The surge in nontraditional families increases the risk of
disruption. "There are more incidents of incest reported in
stepfamilies than in biological families," observes Lynn
Reynolds of the Institute Against Social Violence, in Briarcliff
Manor, New York. Adopted children may be particularly
vulnerable; no matter how well they are treated by their
adoptive families, they frequently struggle with feelings of
abandonment by their biological parents.
"Anyone who comes into a marriage with a teenage child
needs to exercise extra caution about incest," warns
psychiatrist Domeena Renshaw of Loyola School of Medicine, in
Chicago. "That child is beginning to blossom, and will sometimes
compete with the natural parent." Freudian theory holds that the
earliest erotic impulses are incestuous; young boys
unconsciously rival their father for their mother's affection,
while daughters covet their father, a normal process in
development known, in boys and girls respectively, as the
Oedipus and Electra complexes. One therapist wonders whether
Soon-Yi may never have resolved such early longings and might
now be replacing her mother as the father's lover.
The courts may not call it incest or child abuse, but the
relationship is surely an abuse of power. "Does anyone really
see Soon-Yi as a consenting equal?" asks West. "Would she feel
free to say no to the great Woody Allen? Is she intellectually
mature enough?" One reason the taboo of incest has endured so
strongly is the understanding most people have that the complex
emotional bonds and power relationships that exist within a
family -- even an extended one -- should never be abused.
By Anastasia Toufexis. Reported by Andrea Sachs/New York
and James Willwerth/Los Angeles